Dealing with a step-child

Before my husband and I got married, he had a son with another women.  She is madly in love with him and is willing to do anything to hurt him.  She uses his son.  It is strange how the court system is set up to help her in this vindictive character.  I never knew that a father would have to kiss the back side of his ex girlfriend just to have a part in his own child’s life.  It is as if all they want him to do is pay child support and NEVER see his son.  That would not do for her, she needs him to want his son so she can hurt him for not marrying her.  How sad.

How can a father ever really be a father if the women has all the say so in when he can see his son?  Why does she automatically get custody?  Why can’t it be joint from the start and if he or she does something that warrants a change then change it?  It just seems harsh to tell a man, yes you father a child but since you are not willing to stay with this women you will suffer for the rest of your life, or at least until the child turns 18……. sadwalk….

I would give anything to help him and make all this go away but I can’t. I am not a part of this issue.  It is between him and the child’s mother.  He really wants to be a part of his son’s life.  Even his parents are made to suffer.  Her mom gets to see him all the time but my husbands parents never get to see.  He is missing out on so much love and no one seems to care.  Oh well, that is my vent for today.  Sorry all.  I have days like this sometime and just need to talk it out.  Thanks for listening……..

Love and Kisses

Nitza

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