Wanted to do an update on my life as an Army Wife and living on Post. I will also post a video which you can find on my YouTube channel Here. I’ve enjoyed living on Post and it has its advantages, but there are some downfalls.
When I first moved on Post I thought I would make a lot of friends and hang out with women during the day over coffee talking about our spouses, kids, home, and Post life in general. Well, I very quickly discovered that is not the way life is on Post for 80% of the women/men living here that are married. Making friends is hard. Finding someone who you connect with and connects with you is the tricky part. Most of the women on Post are young, well from my perception that is. A lot of the more experience women seem to live off Post. But then, I’ve only seen about 10% of the Post life so far here at Fort Benning. 😦
My husband gets up and goes to work at 0400, I am here with my son (most of the time) and cleaning the house just isn’t cutting it any more. You see, when I first arrived all I did was clean, cook, wash cloths. That gets old real fast. Don’t get me wrong, I still do those things its just my house is clean most days so it is not much to do any more and I am done by 0600. Now I need to fill the rest of the day.
School is coming along fine, but it only takes about 4 hours out of my. I still have more than 7 hours to fill before my husband is home. Cooking may take an hour depending on what I make and then what? I’ve tried exploring the Post and Columbus in general but even after 69 days, I am board. I think people who don’t live on post feel like that is some magic that happens and Post life becomes a “Leave it to Beaver” type of life. For those of you who don’t know it was a show in the 70’s I think that portrayed this perfect life of a family, although not Military. Anyway, that is how I thought. I couldn’t wait to move to Benning and once here I was ecstatic. I thought there would be things to do every weekend. I thought the Post would have something going on all the time and I would never be board. I thought I would go to all these events and meet women and we would hit it off. Sadly, that is not the way life on Post is at all. It is the same as any life. In or out of the Military.
There are no “magic” wands to make everything perfect. Life here is what you make it. You don’t become this “Army Wife”, what ever that ever meant, that rises to some status and gives you privileges. Everybody on Post has the same stickers on their car, Army Wife, or some version of it. Everybody has pictures on the wall, posters, banners and so on. On Post, you are just a wife who has a spouse in the Army.
There are a lot of wonderful things I love about being here at Fort Benning. I love our home. I love the neighborhood we live in. Some of the higher ranking Soldiers homes are not as nice as ours. Hahahahahaha I love that my son has others kids to play with all the time and that I don’t have to watch him ever few seconds to see if he is fine. I hate some of the parents that don’t understand that a diaper needs to be changed once it is full. The Baby should not be running in a diaper that weighs more than him/her. I don’t like the fact that some moms thinks Post is babysitters and they don’t have to keep track of what their child is doing. I don’t like that the housing is selective about what rules it will enforce. I believe if you make it a rule it should be followed at all times or none of them EVER! Don’t say that today it is OK to leave your trash can out all week and then next week say it must be put in the back yard or tell one family they must put the can in its place and allow another to leave it on the front porch.
Well, I could go on and on about life on Post but let me just say, at the end of the day, it is all about your marriage. You don’t stop being a wife and a mother and dealing with all the drama that comes with it.